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by Skye Lamont

The Power of Positive Association


One of the basic challenges a homes schooling parent faces is resistance from their child/children towards their daily lessons. I'm sure there are a couple of parents out there right now who know exactly what I mean -the moaning, the sad faces, the snails crawl paces at which the kids do their activities - you know, the pain we parents go through.



I'm a life coach, one thing I can tell you is that sometimes my adult clients act the same way. Take for instance a client who wants to lose weight. Making healthy eating choices and exercise are not always easy - or are they? It really depends on the perception they associate with having to do those activities. If they have positive associations, then their exercise routine flows even when they're pushing through tremendous resistance like lifting weights. If while lifting, they concentrate on form, believing every rep they do is getting them stronger and stronger, building more muscle and making them more powerful, the their exercise has different meaning. But if every time as they lift they are saying to themselves, "this is hard, heavy and I'm not sure I can do any more," then their perception is probably right. They lose momentum and their body complies with their beliefs.

How does this work on my kid? If your child feels the next task is hard, heavy, difficult and boring, then how much energy will your child give that task? The answer is very little. Having a negative association is about perception and perception comes from our sensory experience. Those things that we touch, see, hear and experience give a value of either pain or pleasure. 

Let me give you an example of this. My 10-year-old daughter Atlanta, sometimes becomes overwhelmed when doing the dishes. This usually happens when she looks at the table and the counters and sees everything as one BIG mess. She sees the mess bigger then it is. Instead of seeing 6 plates, 6 cups and silverware for each, and then a few pots and pans, she sees a mountain. When that happens, she automatically goes into an emotional state that stops her from being resourceful which in turn takes away her ability to see things clearly. In this negative emotional state she begins the task with low motivation and is remorseful. This perpetuates the problem towards a negative pattern that she will run over and over again.

 I can help her break the pattern
 so she doesn't repeat the same un-empowering pattern. I don't want to explain to her what she's doing because what she's doing is at the emotional level and emotions are faster then thought. So explaining it to her won't work, it doesn’t help her. We need to help her interrupt the negative pattern. Atlanta is very competitive. So in the middle of her emotional drama, I say something like: 

"Hey sweetie, would you like a few pieces of chocolate? Yeah? well, I don't think you can do it, but I will give you one piece right now, and two others if you can get the dishes done in 20 minutes - but like I said, I don't think you can do it." 

With Atlanta, telling her she can't do it is like asking her to a race. She always wants to be the winner and it's not even for the reward. She gets total satisfaction knowing she can make me wrong. Giving her the chocolate was the momentary thing I used to get her out of her present overwhelmed state. The challenge took doing the dishes from a chore to a race. She loves races. This in turn took her from hating the dishes to an associated state of loving the competition.

 Think for a moment how something like this could change things for you. Use the knowledge of who your kid's are with the creativity that's deep inside of you to help empower your child when they are un-resourceful.




 

   
 
   
 
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